I saw this post and knew instantly who it was. When I was in High School I met a girl who went to the college in town. She was extravagant, over the top, and a little in your face. But I thought she was pretty cool. We rubbed each other the wrong way once while she was leading a BDSM night at the local "hot spot" that I mentored at. So she would routinely kick me out (while I was working on stuff for the place) so she could run the event minor free. Which makes sense, but because of our town she had to be on the down low and couldn't really explain why I had to leave. I just had to leave. So I did.
A few years later I started working as a teacher at the Day Care center I worked part time at in highschool. Guess who else was working there! Yep that same girl. And she was still just as radical. At that point she had a steady boyfriend AND a girlfriend, who would soon be her boyfriend, and went by a mans name. She eventually married the straight dude, and parted ways with her transgendered friend. But that is NOT the story here. The cool thing about her is that she was COMPLETELY open about her "private" life. It wasn't a secret, and the one thing I loved about that place is that my boss at the time, was very open to alternative lifestyles. The facility was tattoo and piercing friendly, we did not have uniforms, and we taught the children to be open minded just by example. Shortly after I started she left to be a dancer in Richmond. We all said goodbye and good luck.
This post is so true because she is the SWEETEST person. She does what she has to do every once in a while, to survive. But shes a sweet person. And people say that about me often. I always get told, or people get told about me that "She is a very cool girl, she is super nice, and friendly but... she is kinda...weird." or " She is a bit strange, but I know you will like her." It is almost as if people have to be prepped for me. (and for this girl)
I do not look as goth as I use to, due to time and wanted the fighting to end. And the harassment. Seriously if you think High School was bad, you have NO IDEA WHAT THE ADULT WORLD IS LIKE. well at least for a goth.
for those of you who are reading this from a non goth view point, goth is not slitting wrists and worshiping satan. there is a much deeper involvement and lifestyle that "classifies" the goth movement. Otherwise do you really think so many people, of all ages, all races, all backrounds, and all religions would be into it? I am sure I will have a blog specifically about being a goth and what it means, but this is not that blog so I am moving on. (if you are a goth, and don't like being classified as such, or think its stupid. You are a snooty person, get over it gothling)
moving on.
My point on this blog is to really stress that the SCARIEST looking people are often the nicest people you will meet.
Through pain and suffering we find peace. right?
I have a friend who is like 6'5" and has dreads down to his ass, and piercings, and frankenstein tattoos. And he is constantly getting looked at like a monster. People are scared of him. NOBODY looks at his face, he has the kindest face and the silliest personality. He cracks jokes 99% of the time. He is quiet and gentle.
Think about this. Big dogs always think they are small dogs, small dogs always think they are big dogs.
Its not HUMAN nature, its just nature.
I know it's hard to not judge people, I know we all do it everyday. But if we all made a conscious effort to not judge based on attire, appearance, sexual preference (and yes that even means fetishes, just because someone likes having the snot beat out of them does not make them a bad person, that shit is private), religious affiliation (remember we are all spirits having a human experience), or anything.
Take a minute to get to know the person. Take a day to get to know a person, don't just write them off.
You will regret it
its simple, just be aware.
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